2022 Queer guide for navigating holiday stressors

 Sometimes it feels like from November 1st until January 2nd we are just thrown into holiday cheer and chaos. For some, this may be a time that is filled with joy and found memories but for others this may be a time filled with stress, anxiety, loneliness, and difficult memories. The holiday season can be a difficult time for anyone, but it can be particularly challenging for LGBTQ individuals who may have strained relationships with their families. For many LGBTQ people, the holidays are a time when they are expected to be with their families and participate in traditions, even if those families are not accepting or supportive of their identities.

Many LGBTQ individuals may not feel fully accepted or supported by their family and loved ones, particularly during the holidays when traditional family values and expectations may be more pronounced. Feeling like an outsider in ones family can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. LGBTQ individuals may not feel represented or included in holiday celebrations and traditions, which can lead to feelings of invisibility or marginalization. Many individuals may feel the need to hide their true identity by conforming to traditional roles within their family or cultural traditions. Another unique stressor for LGBTQ folxs during the holidays is that some LGBTQ individuals may not have a safe and welcoming environment in which to celebrate the holidays, either because they are not out to their family or because they do not have a supportive network of friends or loved ones. They may face discrimination or prejudice within their families or communities. LGBTQ individuals may face discrimination or prejudice from others during the holidays, which can be emotionally and mentally draining.

It's important to remember that everyone's experience is unique, and that not all LGBTQ individuals will face these challenges during the holidays. However, for those who do, it can be helpful to have a supportive network of friends and loved ones, as well as access to resources and support services.

Here are some ways that LGBTQ individuals can navigate the holiday season with strained family relationships:

Set boundaries: It is important for LGBTQ individuals to set boundaries with their families and make it clear what is and is not acceptable behavior. This can include setting limits on conversations about sensitive topics, such as sexuality or gender identity, or requesting that certain family members not be present at holiday gatherings. Setting boundaries can help to reduce tension and protect the mental health of LGBTQ individuals.

Find support outside of the family: The holiday season can be a great time to connect with supportive friends and loved ones. LGBTQ individuals may find it helpful to spend time with people who accept and support them, especially if they are not feeling welcome or accepted by their families. This can include attending holiday events with LGBTQ-friendly groups, such as church congregations or community organizations.

Create new traditions: For LGBTQ individuals who may not feel comfortable participating in traditional holiday activities with their families, it can be helpful to create new traditions. This can include finding alternative ways to celebrate, such as hosting a holiday party with supportive friends or participating in a charity event. Creating new traditions can help LGBTQ individuals to feel more connected and engaged during the holiday season.

Seek professional support: If the holidays are particularly difficult for an LGBTQ individual and they are struggling with their mental health, it may be helpful to seek the support of a mental health professional. A therapist or counselor can provide a safe and supportive space for individuals to process their feelings and develop coping strategies.

Take care of yourself: It is important for LGBTQ individuals to prioritize their own well-being during the holiday season. This can include setting aside time for self-care, such as engaging in activities that bring joy or relaxation, or taking breaks from social events if needed. It is okay to prioritize one's own needs and well-being, especially if it means protecting oneself from further harm or stress.

While navigating the holiday season with strained family relationships can be challenging, there are steps that LGBTQ individuals can take to protect their well-being and find support. By setting boundaries, seeking support outside of the family, creating new traditions, and taking care of themselves, LGBTQ individuals can make the holiday season a more enjoyable and meaningful time.

There are several online resources available for LGBTQ individuals experiencing distress during the holidays:

1. The Trevor Project: This is a national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ youth. They offer a 24/7 crisis hotline, as well as online resources and support.

2. GLBT National Help Center: This organization provides support, information, and resources to LGBTQ individuals and their allies. They offer a hotline, online chat, and email support.

3. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: This organization provides a 24/7 crisis hotline for anyone experiencing a mental health crisis, including LGBTQ individuals.

4. It Gets Better Project: This organization works to uplift, empower, and connect LGBTQ youth around the world. They offer a range of resources and support, including a video series featuring stories from LGBTQ individuals who have overcome adversity.

5. The LGBT National Resource Center: This organization provides a range of resources and support for LGBTQ individuals, including information on health, coming out, and more.

It's also important to remember that there are many other local and national organizations that may offer support and resources for LGBTQ individuals. It can be helpful to reach out to these organizations or to seek out supportive friends, loved ones, or mental health professionals for additional support.